To create more connection and safety and to strengthen the container by choosing to be vulnerable, transparent and truthful.
Withhold occurs when a man is not sharing something about himself and it is keeping him from being present. When he shares his Withhold he may choose to end with a request. The only appropriate response to a Withhold is “Thank you” or silence. An individual Withhold can happen at any time (except during another man’s process).
The King may call for a Withhold round at any time (except during another man’s process).
Using a Withhold round before doing the Clearing round can help to flush out charges that men were not aware of.
You can also use the Withhold round before or after the regular Lover check‐in as a way of inviting men to become more open and vulnerable within the group.
Ask each man in the circle to check‐in around these: